Leidra Lawson's Advice

Welcome to my Advice Column. If you have not heard of me or read my book, Sugar Daddy 101 then, please feel free to check out my website and Yahoo group. I have written for many publications and given advice on topics such as: sex, finding a sugar daddy, men looking for wives , investing money, womens issues, etc.

In addition to being a writer, I also run a matchmaking service catering to wealthy men seeking quality relationships.

Please enjoy my first column posted below and send me your thoughts and questions. If you are seeking advice please send a private email to: queensugarbaby@yahoo.com All letters become my intellectual property and may be used for national/international publication.

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How Can I Get a Long-Term Sugar Baby?

Dear Leidra,

I love your website, your book, and I wanted to let you know that you are doing a wonderful service. There are so many ladies out there who would love to be spoiled by
the right man, and there are so many men who love to spoil and pamper. Thank
you for spreading the word!

I have been on Yahoo for three years seeking a sugar baby. I have never used any other method to find one. But, I am having difficulty in keeping a sugar daddy relation for more than four months.

I hate overuse of the term “sugar daddy”, as it seems any man who can take a lady to dinner considers himself a sugar daddy these days. I consider myself a true sugar daddy. I am 46 years old and live in Florida. I am somewhat, happily married with two young children and wish to remain married. I own a global business with offices in Florida, Italy, and Chicago. I work very hard and enjoy the company of a young, sexy woman. I feel guilty about cheating on my wife, but I feel she doesn’t understand me and rarely wants to have sex with me.

I love to have a good time, enjoy travel and fine dining. I would like to meet a sugar baby who is open minded, will not complain, outgoing, happy, beautiful, sexy, passionate, busy with her life, and not seeking a relationship—possibly even married.) I would prefer a sugar baby whom resides in Florida, but I am open to other places, especially Italy. It is important that this sort of relationship add to both of our lives.

I can offer my sugar baby a number of things: exotic vacations, clothes, an apartment, an allowance, jewelry, gifts, etc. I have given a combination of all of these things to previous sugar babies. The one thing I do not do is give everything upfront and then hope the situation works. I believe that intelligent people can tell quickly if things will work out or not and I am not looking to get burned.

I would love any additional tips that will give me success in finding that special long-term sugar baby.

Best Regards
Eric. L

Hello Eric,
Thanks so much for the encouragement. I am glad to spread the word about a lifestyle enjoyed by a lot of people.

Your letter was very thorough, and I have a few comments and suggestions that will help you. I make many suggestions in my book for women. One of the things I teach is to use other places, besides the Internet, to meet men. I would suggest you do a male version of “freestyling” as a described in my book. Freestyling is simply going places to meet people. This could be: charity events, upscale restaurants, while shopping, etc.

You said that you want a woman that “will not complain.” I do not know what planet you come from, but women complain from time to time, as well as men. LOL Do not expect a woman to be perfect, like a robot wife from “Stepford Wives.” I suspect that you are setting your expectations too high and that is why you can’t keep a sugar baby for more than four months. You also mentioned that your wife doesn’t understand you and doesn’t want sex. Could it be in part of you have unrealistic expectations of her too? Maybe you will find that your wife understands you more and will crave sex if you change your approach. And who knows, maybe by working on your marriage, you will find that you don’t need a sugar baby relationship on the side anymore.

Leidra Lawson, Author of Sugar Daddy 101

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